The Struggle for the Soul of Marriage

Ireland, the US, in fact almost every English speaking country in the world has legalized so called came-sex “marriage”, and the push is on for Australia to follow. The US Supreme Court legalized gay “marriage” in a 5-4 ruling on June 26 with the Foundation for Moral Law, a pro-marriage organization, writing after the ruling “At least two members of the Court’s majority opinion were under a legal duty to recuse and refrain from voting.” Life Site News reported that “Justices Ginsburg and Kagan performed same-sex “marriage” ceremonies, calling into question their impartiality and possibly breaking judicial ethics, critics said. Without their votes, the decision would have upheld marriage by a 4-3 margin.” [Read the full report here.] And the Emerald Isle, the land of St. Patrick “defied God” (in the words of Cardinal Raymond Burke), by voting in favor of gay “marriage” (62%) in a May 22 referendum.  The Pope’s right-hand man, Cardinal Pietro Parolin, (the Vatican’s Secretary of State), called the decision “a defeat for humanity”.

In all the history of the world, I am unaware of any society or civilization which has legally recognized unions between couples of the same sex to be equal to traditional marriages between one man and one woman (and actually gone so far as to call said irregular unions marriages), until now that is. So you might well say that what we are dealing with here is a historical first, and common sense should tell us that decisions as serious as the redefinition of marriage, one of mankind’s oldest and longest lasting institutions, should not be made hastily. Unfortunately this has not been the case.


I myself am opposed to so called same-sex “marriages” but believe that those with deep-seated homosexual tendencies “must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity,” and that “every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.” [Catechism of the Catholic Church; 2358]

The Australian Catholic Bishops have recently weighed in on the Same-Sex Marriage debate with a letter entitled “Don’t Mess With Marriage“, a letter which is addressed to all Australians. In the letter, the bishops say that ” Christians believe that all people including those with same-sex attraction are called by God to live chastely and that, by God’s grace and the support of friends, they can and should grow in fulfilling God’s plan. Even those who take a different view to us about the place and meaning of sexual activity can appreciate the particular significance and importance of this institution. We now face a struggle for the very soul of marriage.”
They go on to say that, “One view of marriage is that it is nothing more than a commitment to love. On this view, marriage is essentially an emotional tie, enhanced by public promises and consensual sexual activity. The marriage is valuable as long as the good emotions last. Proponents of this view of marriage argue that, given that men and women, men and men, and women and women, can have these sorts of emotional ties, all such unions should be recognised as marriages in law.”
However, “The traditional view of marriage, which the Church has always supported, is different. It sees marriage as about connecting the values and people in our lives which otherwise have a tendency to get fragmented: sex and love, male and female, sex and babies, parents and children. This view has long influenced our law, literature, art, philosophy, religion and social practices.
On this view, marriage includes an emotional union, but it goes further than that. It involves a substantial bodily and spiritual union of a man and a woman. As the Old Testament taught and Jesus and St Paul repeated, marriage is where man and woman truly become “one flesh” (Gen 2:24;Mt 19:5; Eph 5:31). It is a comprehensive union between a man and a woman grounded on heterosexual union.”

Some of the concerns raised in the letter are that it is unjust:

•to legitimise the false assertion that there is nothing distinctive about a man and a woman, a father or a mother;
•to ignore the particular values that real
marriage serves;
•to ignore the importance for children of
having, as far as possible, a mum and a
dad, committed to them and to each other
for the long haul;
•to destabilize marriage further at a time
when it is already under considerable
pressure; and
•to change retrospectively the basis upon
which all existing married couples got

While some may argue that a grandfather/grandmother, uncle/aunt, or close family friend will be able to fill the role of the missing parent; be it mother or father, and that same-sex marriages are similar situations to single parent families, the bishops rightly declare that “there is a big difference…between dealing with the unintended reality of single parenthood and planning from the beginning artificially to create an ‘alternative family’ that deliberately deprives a child of a father or a mother.”

They also address the reality that because “a view of marriage – as between a man and a woman – which was previously common to believers and no-believers alike, across a whole variety of cultures and times, is increasingly becoming a truth which cannot be spoken…redefining marriage has consequences for everyone.”And they provide many examples to back this up. Such as the City of Coeur d’Alene, Idaho ordering “Christian ministers to perform same-sex weddings under pain of 180 days’ imprisonment for each day the ceremony is not performed and fines of $1000 per day” even though doing so would be going against their beliefs.

The bishops conclude the letter by calling for action. “We call upon all those of good will, to redouble their support for the institution of marriage in our community and for the laws and culture that sustain it. We particularly urge you to make your views known to your parliamentary representatives. At this moment in our nation’s history married people must give the testimony of their own lives in this matter. We especially pray for genuine friendship and love in every person’s life, married or unmarried; for a right understanding of the meaning of marriage and the requirements of justice; and for an increasing openness to the powerful witness of married couples in our world.”

Your shepherds have spoken. Hear them and act upon their words. Marriage must not be messed with.

Don’t Mess With Marriage

Australia’s bishops reaffirm marriage – and get reported to government

The original Divine meaning of Marriage


The Sixth Commandment – The Catechism of the Catholic Church

The Sacrament of Matrimony – The Catechism of the Catholic Church 

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